Hi everyone!
Welcome back….well I guess that this is really directed to me.
I would like to apologize for my absence. Baby #2 arrived about a month ago now and we have been non stop around here ever since. Today was the first day that we haven’t had family here with us in the last 5 weeks.
The first day totally on our own as a family of 4!
Now I don’t know if this is how it was for some of you but #2 is totally different. I seemed to ease right into the routine and already knew what was expected and what to expect. I also know that this doesn’t happen for everyone. I think that the biggest help was honestly just getting away from the craziness at home and to the hospital.
As the Hubby says….”this time around had a totally different feel”….and I totally agree. #2 was a scheduled C-section due to complications with #1 and after a lot of talk with the Dr.’s we all agreed that this would be best to keep everyone safe. But this was scheduled. We joked that it felt like we were just checking in to the hotel for a few days.
We already knew what we would need and what we wouldn’t. What we couldn’t live with out and what we knew could wait. Life had a different pace. No crazy schedules, no temper tantrums, no screaming, no tears…..(well ok there were tears but they where of Joy and not out of frustration). I felt like a different person. We are older and for some reason that has really made a huge difference. I feel like we are already in a better place than we were when #1 was born. Maybe it is because we already know that our freedoms have been taken away. I mean we can’t just go and do what ever we want anymore. We have other responsibilities now.
So not only are we now a family of four, but I am also now a stay at home mom (at least until August) and our oldest is not in daycare for the summer. I have forgotten how much energy #1 has and how much attention and energy she sucks out of me.
Turns out that it doesn’t matter how many times we talked about becoming a big sister. Talking to her about what will change. How things will change for her. Reading books about being a big sister. Talking about how she will get to meet her sister soon and that Mommy will be at the hospital. We talked through it all. But that still did nothing to prepare #1 for the inevitable truth that she would no longer be the center of attention.
The first week or so was rather rough for all of us. #1 was no longer the center of attention in the house and I still couldn’t snuggle with her (C-section problems). She just didn’t understand that. Talk about making all of the changes at once!
Yikes!!!!!!! Ok, So I know that some of you are sitting there laughing at me. I am not a very good Stay at home mom. It drains me and I seem to always feel that something else is a bit more important to get done than doing something productive and educationally fun with my mini me; but I am working on it. We have our day partitioned out and a list of adventures!
Now I am transitioning to a new baby, a jealous 3 1/2 year old and rediscovering my little girl. Thankfully the jealousy has subsided and we are finding ways for #1 to be a big helper with #2. We are working it all out. It also doesn’t help that #2 is fussy and wants to nurse at the same time that we are trying to get #1 to bed! Not to mention the colic!
I have some epic adventures lined up for this summer with my mini me and #2 gets to go too! So follow along with our adventures and some of the new products that we are exploring and the ones that we found that we loved with #1. We will also be trying new recipes and posting them here.
Thank you for sticking around and I hope to be writing more frequently now that we are getting into a bit of a routine.
